Calling all the REBELs

I want to let you in on something that’s been quietly brewing for a while.

Over the past year or so, I’ve found myself coming back to the same conversation—whether with coaching clients, workshop participants, or just fellow leaders over coffee. A conversation about what it means to lead without losing yourself.

So many people I work with - conscientious, values-led, passionate people - are nearing burnout. These are people who care deeply, lead with integrity, and yet find themselves feeling quietly eroded by systems that reward compliance, not courage; output, not authenticity.

And the truth is, I’ve felt it too. That slow erosion of self. The compromises. The second-guessing. The question: Is this really leadership… or have I just learned to survive in someone else’s system?

That question became the spark for something bigger. I started writing.

What’s emerged is a book called Calm REBEL Leadership. It explains the traps that it is all so easy to fall into and then a step by step approach to liberating your authentic leadership once again.

Here’s the elevator pitch:

The overall response so far has been very encouraging—more than I expected, honestly. My early reviewers have described it as part manifesto, part field guide and have told me it feels like the book was written for them.

And maybe it was. Because everything in it is drawn from the real-world stories of the leaders I’ve coached, the patterns I’ve witnessed, and the hard-won lessons I’ve learned myself.

The Calm REBEL Traps

There are five common traps or patterns of behaviour that slowly erode your ability to lead authentically and act with integrity.

We don’t lose ourselves all at once.

It happens in stages - small shifts that gradually disconnect us from who we are.

You start by Drifting - making small, subtle compromises until your values are barely visible.

You begin Distorting reality and start to question your worth, your perspective, and even your sanity.

You move into Rescuing - picking up the slack, fixing everything, burning yourself out.

You begin Shrinking - holding back, playing small, trying not to rock the boat.

And finally, you find yourself Self-Sacrificing - so focused on holding it all together for others that you vanish from your own leadership. You’re showing up for everyone except yourself.

I’ve seen these traps play out again and again in the leaders I coach.

And if I’m honest, I’ve been caught in every one of them too.

You don’t fall into these traps all at once. You slide into them - gradually, often invisibly - until the leader you wanted to be feels far away.

And unless you have a way back, you stay stuck.

That’s where my Calm REBEL Arc comes in - a quiet path back to clarity, courage, and the kind of leadership that doesn’t cost you yourself. And yes…REBEL is an acronym! 😃 

I don’t believe leadership is about trying to hustle harder, I think it’s about striving to remain who you are in a system that discourages that. In this case, rebelling is about remembering who you are and then daring to work back to that again.

Calm REBEL Leadership is more than a mindset—it’s a five-part journey. Each letter of REBEL maps to a stage that helps you return to grounded, authentic leadership.

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As a thank you for being part of this community, I’m offering something special to newsletter readers: early access.

If you’d like to be among the first to get your hands on the book—before it’s officially released—just click below to join the pre-order interest list. No pressure, no payment yet. Just a heads-up when the early copies are ready.

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I’m really excited about this one. And I’d love for you to be part of its first steps into the world.

Watch this space…